I was thinking about a conversation my husband and I had when we were engaged. I was a little bit affected by my previous marriage and I did not trust anyone. I must admit that it was not easy to get to trust my husband because even though it had been several years of my divorce, I still had a trauma with infidelity.
I had to clarify to him that I did not forgive an infidelity, and we talked about a plan to avoid infidelity at all costs and to be honest with one another if felt attracted to someone else.
He told me that infidelities do not happen so easily, but that you must feed it with actions. For me it was something new because I had always thought that it could be happen in any second. However, I understood that he was right. to be unfaithful you must have a “special” relationship with the other person. That it can begin with a simple friendship as it was the case of the history that we read of Jane and Aaron, where she saw that Friendship as inoffensive, nevertheless she was ending her own marriage little by little.
Some of the goals my husband and I made before getting married were
- Do not go out with anyone of the opposite sex without the other being present.
- Spend as much time as we can together.
- Be honest with one another.
- Avoid routine.
- Not have secret password.
Some precautions that I take to safeguard my marriage from infidelity is to avoid being alone with someone of the opposite sex, when I join with friends, I make sure my husband is present. Also, when I talk to my friends by phone or social media, I try to do it in the presence of my husband.
Another thing we can do is avoid using the phone behind our partner. We see many cases today where couples hide their phone so that their partners do not know of their conversations with someone else, however that leads to distrust and the couple’s relationship to weaken.
President Ezra Taft Benson said “Honorable marriage is more important than wealth, position, and status. As husband and wife, you can achieve your life’s goals together. As you sacrifice for each other and your children, the Lord will bless you, and your commitment to the Lord and your service in His kingdom will be enhanced.”
Remember that our partner must be our friend, confidant, and our priority in life, will help strengthen our marriage.
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