Seeking to Understand

If I had to give some advice to a friend who is going through marriage difficulties, I would recommend reading “Drawing Heaven into Marriage” by Goddard. because it has helped me improve many things in my own life and I know that reading this book and putting into practice the principles that are taught, can change ways of thinking and acting of any person. One of President Ezra Taft Benson’s quotes are mentioned in the book is when he said ” “When we put God first, all other things fall into their place or drop out of our life. Our love for the Lord will govern the claims for our affection, the demands on our time, the interest we pursue, and the order of our priorities. We should put God ahead of everyone else in our lives” pg57.

Having God first is the main message of this book, because without God it would be very difficult to apply in our marriage the principles that we learned. As, sacrifice, faith, humility, consecration, charity, fidelity, etc. One of the important things that I learned from this book is that I always must remember the covenants I have made with my husband, and not let myself be control by pride. “Pride is without that can be seen in others but is rarely admitted in ourselves “pg 76.  This is one of the phrases that will always be in my mind to overcome any inconvenience I may have in my marriage.

Also I cannot help but highlight the good teachings I got in “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” by Gottman; puts in practice activities that we are advised in this book helped me to see even more the qualities that my husband has and also to see the potential that I have to make things work better in my marriage. One of the activities that I enjoyed doing the most was nurture, fondness and admiration. I was able to appreciate all the things my husband does for me and my family, although it was not something new for me, nevertheless I could see them more clearly. I think the central message of this book is that we apply good principles in our marriage to avoid unnecessary divorce at all costs.