Cherishing Your Spouse

I love reading about nurture fondness and admiration, while I read it came to my mind that many marriages are deteriorating because they fall into the daily routine. The problems and the daily thing lead to the relations get cooled little by little. If each couple made a goal of learning to nurture fondness and admiration for their partner, things would be easier and more bearable. Personally, this has helped a lot in my marriage relationship. When my husband and I were married 11 years ago, we were both very quiet and very reserved, however one of our goals was to build trust as a couple, that helped us talk more about our daily issues and help us get to know each other better. Before getting married we only dated for 6 months, and it was not enough time to know everything about each other. He was not very expressive, and I was very afraid of expressing my feelings with fear of being hurt. However, his details and love made me open little by little until I showed him all my love for him. They were not big details, details like sending a text and telling him something that I liked about him, or leaving a note letting him know how grateful I was to have him in my life. Those small things helped him to be more expressive and more detailed with me. By showing our love and admiration it is easier for us to ask for forgiveness and recognize when we do something wrong. It is easier to hug and say sorry. It is easier to make sacrifices for the other and stop thinking about yourself. I like when President Eyring says “The joys come from putting the welfare of others above our own. That is what love is. And the sorrow comes primarily from selfishness, which is the absence of love. The ideal God holds for us is to form families in the way most likely to lead to happiness and away from sorrow. A man and a woman are to make sacred covenants that they will put the welfare and happiness of the other at the center of their lives.”  What better way to achieve this than by nourishing our fondness and admiration for the person that we love!