Marriage

It is sad to see how the world do not see marriage from a spiritual point of view, sometimes they only want to satisfy their temporal needs without giving any regard to the plan of salvation that our Heavenly Father prepared for us. Also, the world does not respect marriage values, when they prefer to live in cohabitation; many do not want to have the responsibilities that a family brings, nor to make sacred promises to respect and love his wife or her husband. However, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter – day Saints sees marriage as the perfect plan to be happy on earth, so together we can live with God again.

Sometimes it is very easy to think about a divorce when there are minor problems in marriage, maybe because we want to meet our personal needs and we do not think about the needs of our spouse and our children. I know that there are no perfect marriages, but I also know that through prayers and mutual desire to improve, many things can be achieved. Sometimes we cannot avoid divorce for many reasons, however I think that we must do everything in our power to avoid it. I love it when Elder Dallin H. Oaks says “Divorce is not an all-purpose solution, and it often creates long-term heartache. A broad-based international study of the levels of happiness before and after “major life events” found that, on average, persons are far more successful in recovering their level of happiness after the death of a spouse than after a divorce.  Spouses who hope that divorce will resolve conflicts often find that it aggravates them, since the complexities that follow divorce—especially where there are children—generate new conflicts.”

I had the experience of a divorce, with 9 years of marriage and two wonderful children, I went through many difficult moments in my life where the divorce could not be avoided. It was a where many situations were unbearable, and lack of respect could not be forgiven anymore. I finally understood that I was a daughter of God and that my Heavenly Father did not want me to live unhappy on this earth, I understood that if I was not happy my children would not be happy either. It was when I said “no more” however I know that my experience was to learn and value my current marriage. It was to have a person next to me who would love me and respect me as a daughter of God that I am, to learn to trust in marriage and above all in love.

Even though I am divorced from my first marriage, I know without doubt that we have great potential to achieve eternal life with our spouse and children. We can overcome all the barriers that we find along the way. I am grateful that my Heavenly Father gave me a second chance to make things better and have an imperfect but a happy marriage.